As a parent, saying “no” seems to come so naturally. And I do think it has an important place in my vocabulary. However, I find it can really shut down a conversation when I lead with it. SO in an effort to keep it positive, I have challenged myself to create a list of how I could say yes instead of no.
Just a little background story; we have desserts at our house, just not every day. I like to think I am teaching my children how to enjoy sweets in moderation. I also believe in helping them develop an ability to delay gratification/patience.
“Mom can I have a cookie?”
1. Yes, after you finish your dinner.
2. Thats a great idea, when should we have cookies, after lunch or after dinner?
3. Yes, tomorrow I will have fresh cookies available after dinner.
4. Yes, when we go to the store next, we can choose some cookies.
5. Yes, I love to bake with you, lets find a recipe.
6. I love to share a sweet treat with you, shall we enjoy it after dinner today or tomorrow?
7. When would you like a cookie, today or tomorrow?
8. Yes, but I don’t have any cookies, can we enjoy some sweet fruit together?
9. Yes. Lets choose which day this week you would like a cookie.
10. Yes, let’s have cookies, what a great idea.